I totally see that take but sin is sin. My point is that it only takes one sin to keep you out of heaven. I have a problem with the attitude "Yeah, I'm a sinner but I'm not as big of a sinner as that dude". In my opinion, it's lazy and keeps people from being fully convicted.
I honestly think you are 100% correct on a spiritual level and if we all thought like that there is no way that someone would do something so heinous as sexual predation with a child. On a human level however a sin that scars another human to that level I have to believe has an even greater hotter fire in hell to endure...than someone who has a single bad thought that they don't even carry out. here's a scripture to back that up.
Mark 9:42
But if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be thrown into the sea.
Luke 17:2
It would be better for him to have a millstone hung around his neck and to be thrown into the sea than to cause one of these little ones to stumble.
The entire 3rd chapter of James also give grave warning to teachers and pastors who mislead and take advantage for their own gain or to cover their own sin.
Pastors and leaders are indeed held in a higher standard. While sin is sin in it's vast separation of all humanity from a loving God...but by his forgiveness...The punishment seems to be even more sever for those who know better and take advantage of their power by abusing others. These are the same as those who crucified the Lord in their arrogance and I have to believe that their punishment is worse.
At the same time, Christ defended the prostitutes' and the adulter against those leaders wrath and power...it's interesting that neither was in a power position when he did that however, they were abuse of power victims. One was about to be stoned to death by the church and the other was cleaning his feet with her hair. However, counter to that argument was someone like tax collector for the occupier army and aggressor nation Rome, Zacchaeus. He had cheated his fellow townsmen and defeated countrymen out of lots of money for the enemy and his own bank account...but Zacchaeus was completely and totally broken by his encounter with Jesus, he paid back all he had taken from others with interest and assessed himself penalty as well, He was totally transformed...until you see that from these leaders forgiveness is far away from them. They need to be stripped from all power and put in prison...then maybe they will achieve the depths of brokenness and selflessness Jesus requires for forgiveness.