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Brother, I hear you.
Life was going great... in a matter of three months, lost my father, lost my job and then my wife of 20 years filed for divorce and left me. After 3 years, I'm finally starting to get whole again, really feeling good about my life and pretty proud of how I'm starting to get a great grip on things again... then *SMACK*.
I'm in a car accident that probably should have killed both me and my 16yr old son. 3 weeks later, my girlfriend of more than a year texts me and says "This isn't working for me. I don't want to continue this relationship" and I haven't heard from her since.
I'm not back to square one, but smurf. I'd sure like to find a "new normal" for myself that's smurfing dependable. Damn near 50 yrs old, I should be really enjoying life. Instead, just getting my ass kicked around.
You're in my prayers.
Life was going great... in a matter of three months, lost my father, lost my job and then my wife of 20 years filed for divorce and left me. After 3 years, I'm finally starting to get whole again, really feeling good about my life and pretty proud of how I'm starting to get a great grip on things again... then *SMACK*.
I'm in a car accident that probably should have killed both me and my 16yr old son. 3 weeks later, my girlfriend of more than a year texts me and says "This isn't working for me. I don't want to continue this relationship" and I haven't heard from her since.
I'm not back to square one, but smurf. I'd sure like to find a "new normal" for myself that's smurfing dependable. Damn near 50 yrs old, I should be really enjoying life. Instead, just getting my ass kicked around.
You're in my prayers.
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That's rough(understatement) my man. As a depressive that all might kill me. I already know I wouldn't be here if not for my wife. Thank God you and your son survived, and I hope you are recovered.
I literally told my wife that I don't believe I could date in this current environment. I don't know if I could even approach trusting someone. It's harder and harder to find people that are genuine and committed. I never liked dating. It's really not "practice' for later. I may be jaded cause I work with teens, though, and literally, everything is superficial all the time.
Your story also reminds me of another thing I tell people all the time. Don't feel sorry for me because I probably wouldn't trade my life for yours. I've survived mine, and I assume you've had some real challenges that I haven't faced. It's crazy. For me, it is more about understanding where people are coming from.
My original answer to Cali's question was both serious and half-hearted. It was honest, but I felt like he was playing. Which is why I asked how deep he wanted to go.
I literally told my wife that I don't believe I could date in this current environment. I don't know if I could even approach trusting someone. It's harder and harder to find people that are genuine and committed. I never liked dating. It's really not "practice' for later. I may be jaded cause I work with teens, though, and literally, everything is superficial all the time.
Your story also reminds me of another thing I tell people all the time. Don't feel sorry for me because I probably wouldn't trade my life for yours. I've survived mine, and I assume you've had some real challenges that I haven't faced. It's crazy. For me, it is more about understanding where people are coming from.
My original answer to Cali's question was both serious and half-hearted. It was honest, but I felt like he was playing. Which is why I asked how deep he wanted to go.
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Thanks. Just some very slight tenderness in my ribs now.
Yes sir... dating at 47, f*cking sucks. Sorry for the language, but it's just that terrible. I haven't had a date in almost 4 years now with a woman that hasn't been abused. Not a single one. AND I have my scars too. Soooo yeah, it's complicated, it's pretty much emotional warfare, it's an assload of work, and you're constantly vulnerable/exposed. It's a train wreck just waiting to happen. I give up on it daily and swear to myself that I don't give a sh*t.
But I do.
Yes sir... dating at 47, f*cking sucks. Sorry for the language, but it's just that terrible. I haven't had a date in almost 4 years now with a woman that hasn't been abused. Not a single one. AND I have my scars too. Soooo yeah, it's complicated, it's pretty much emotional warfare, it's an assload of work, and you're constantly vulnerable/exposed. It's a train wreck just waiting to happen. I give up on it daily and swear to myself that I don't give a sh*t.
But I do.
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Man, your story sounds a lot like mine minus the car wreck. I didn't know what to do, and my good friend suggested I join Facebook. I'm not a social media person, but low and behold, I reconnected with a woman who I had worked with over a decade ago. She had always impressed me as a person, but there was nothing romantic between us back then. We just both happened to be in about the same spot in life, and now we're married and I couldn't be happier. I just couldn't bring myself to do the whole online dating thing, I think because of the stuff you're dealing with. So maybe you can reach back into your past and find someone you knew like I did. Hang in there and best of luck.
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